tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post8462153273834828100..comments2011-12-14T23:15:40.376-05:00Jennifer Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-16592821064401948492011-12-14T23:15:40.376-05:002011-12-14T23:15:40.376-05:00What if your in a christian relationship and want to respect God&#39;s commands on staying sexually pure till marriage?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-86382535107863739482011-07-20T16:06:57.688-05:002011-07-20T16:06:57.688-05:00this is a interesting question, in my personal opinion, I think that is totally normal.Generic Viagrahttp://www.rx-mex.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-49660173023149070052008-12-26T04:20:00.000-05:002008-12-26T04:20:00.000-05:00Tamara,<BR/>Tyler here... I feel really bad that you didn't mention any guilt towards the aspect of your affair. I don't know if you have kids or you feel obligated to stay with your "old" love. But you trying to stay with him, while you fell in love with another is not quite what a "real" man is looking for. <BR/>For instance, I have been with my girlfriend for four and a half, almost five years. I have had trouble finding a job for the past five months and have been quite depressed about it. This in turn caused our relationship to decline, all in the same time I wasn't paying as much attention and only thought about my troubles. Her on the other hand tried to help me out but it soon began to fade once she realized i couldn't be fixed with just words. She then told me that things were becoming sour and I wasn't doing my part. Instantly I freaked out and am now more loving than she can handle. Because of my distance she thinks the spark isn't there for her.(for me it is, yet for her not so much) I am trying so hard to get her to notice me. I love her more than life and once i realized she might leave me, i new i couldn't allow it and had to change. <BR/>So what i say to you is this, if you truly want to rekindle your "old" relationship, let him know that your bored and lonely and if you must, tell him there is or was someone else(depending on your situation). Not only will you feel the weight off your shoulders, you also might get a great response out of him. <BR/>Good luck Tamara,<BR/>and i hope you do whats right for yourself and your relationship!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-16791662845946871092007-12-11T16:15:00.000-05:002007-12-11T16:15:00.000-05:00Jennifer,<BR/><BR/>I love your website, it seems to have all the magical answers I am looking for. I came looking because I am in desperate need of help. You see, my partner is wonderful, he is handsome, supportive, kind, loving, caring, sensitive... he has all those qualities you say a man should have. My problem is I have no desire to be intimate with him. I am not proud to say that this stems from the fact I had an affair last year/into this year which ended sadly and badly and I truly loved this person I had an affair with and for the first time in my life I felt emotional intimacy coupled with sexual intimacy and I truly believed I had met the person for me. As in 99% of affairs though he (rightly) chose to stay with his children - advice you also advocate - and I can appreciate his decision. Of course though this has left me devastated and I am completely dedicated to re-building my relationship with my partner (he does not know) but I am simply desperate at the moment and I feel at a loss as to what to do next.<BR/><BR/>This is a long comment, sorry! Thanks for any advice you can impart.<BR/><BR/>xxTamarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16860566751504348951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-16930149790933763792007-03-19T15:46:00.000-05:002007-03-19T15:46:00.000-05:00Hi Paul... lovely post thank you!<BR/><BR/>Yes, marriage is about giving to our beloved... giving pleasure, care, compassion, understanding, kindness, support, etc. etc.<BR/><BR/>When we stop giving the marriage starts to wither.<BR/><BR/>I like how you think! blessings to you,<BR/><BR/>JenniferJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-15522097450981091942007-03-16T13:29:00.000-05:002007-03-16T13:29:00.000-05:00hmm, as relationships have evolved throughout history and the purpose of relationships (marriage) changed from more survival and business, too more relationship based. Commitment has taken on a WIIFM (what's in it for me) flavor. This self-focused basis for relationship has tainted and limited possibilities. It also causes partners to loose interest as their needs stop being met While I agree we must love ourselves first, this then needs to take on a sacrificial tone towards the beloved in our lives. The sexual relationship becomes giving pleasure to our loved one. <BR/><BR/>Marriage should be about supporting, loving, and serving the other person in the relationship, knowing the other person is going to reciprocate. Intimacy is exploring the many variable intricacies of the one we love. <BR/><BR/>It begins to fade when we stop giving. The solution to the problem is realized when we give out of our need. <BR/><BR/>PaulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-62575209953222281182007-03-16T08:32:00.000-05:002007-03-16T08:32:00.000-05:00Hey Nahuatl... I'm still thinking about your post on the train ride. It truly touched me! :-)<BR/><BR/>You make an excellent point here and one of which I did not think...<BR/><BR/>Arranged marriages are great examples of two people who come to potentially love each other through the effort, energy, and determination to keep their marriage alive.<BR/><BR/>Keeping a relationship vibrant and healthy requires the effort!<BR/><BR/>Thanks a bunch Nahuatl!<BR/><BR/>Hope your day is wonderful... :-)<BR/><BR/>JenJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-6587837104132971112007-03-15T15:08:00.000-05:002007-03-15T15:08:00.000-05:00Something related to it -<BR/>People often put up this point when discussing different marriages style, that "if" the couple happens to lose the spark in their love life, they can go their own ways. But if they united through arranged marriage, they are bound to suffer each other or get divorce.<BR/><BR/>Arranged or not, in a relationship I feel that there is no such thing as "suffering" because people neglect their responsibilities and take easier path (read separation), to live their present. They ignore their partners and their needs. We don't suffer each other - we neglect each other.<BR/><BR/>So, whatever way a couple unites, they can always improve their relationship as you discussed in this post. They just need to put efforts to keep it alive and make it better.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for liking my posts. They are my fav too! Have a great day! :)Nahuatlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10734131303940804145noreply@blogger.com