tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post6855704806961629493..comments2012-01-22T19:48:13.638-05:00Jennifer Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-67585640090534749752011-12-09T13:53:06.846-05:002011-12-09T13:53:06.846-05:00Help me Jennifer,<br />I&#39;ve been married for 6 going on 7yrs and we&#39;ve been together going on9 yrs.. and I&#39;ve been sick for the past 5 years. We have been through so much together we also have a 5yr old daughter together and I just feel like my illness along with financial and family issues have sucked the life out of our relationship.<br />I have been trying so hard to revive things but o feel like I am fighting a losing battle. He doesn&#39;t seen to think there&#39;s a problem. He just does what he has to do ..he is affectionate sometimes as long as he doesn&#39;t have anything else to do. Meaning he puts his wants ahead of me &amp;my daughter and when I push to do more I feel like he does it out of obligation. I know he loves me and he doesn&#39;t believe on divorce but he doesn&#39;t seem to understand that or marriage is just as importantas his weight lifing to keep him healthy. I love him so much and I am willing to do anything to have him look at me the way he use too ..but I don&#39;t know what to do. He will not go to counseling ..can you help me ?bridge8972http://www.blogger.com/profile/14470490366962158906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-53466165648516573282011-09-28T16:28:28.095-05:002011-09-28T16:28:28.095-05:00Over the time, life becomes a routine. Kids, job, bills.....etc. For a change, do something that you have forgotten to do, maybe for sometime or longer. Remember how it was when you both first met.. You both can talk of anything, share everything, tell each other how amazing you feel with each other. How beautiful she is and how your heart miss a beat when he smiles. what happened to all that? Do you hug, kiss, touch each other, laugh together or just look for each other among a crowd and smile when you do? Ask yourself why did you both stop doing all this? How come both so much in love is so distant today? You know now what happended. you both forgot to admire each other, respect each other, understand each other, make the other person feel loved the way you did when you forst met.<br />You do not need to change your ways, just bring back the good ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-89059979778820356952011-09-28T16:28:27.659-05:002011-09-28T16:28:27.659-05:00Over the time, life becomes a routine. Kids, job, bills.....etc. For a change, do something that you have forgotten to do, maybe for sometime or longer. Remember how it was when you both first met.. You both can talk of anything, share everything, tell each other how amazing you feel with each other. How beautiful she is and how your heart miss a beat when he smiles. what happened to all that? Do you hug, kiss, touch each other, laugh together or just look for each other among a crowd and smile when you do? Ask yourself why did you both stop doing all this? How come both so much in love is so distant today? You know now what happended. you both forgot to admire each other, respect each other, understand each other, make the other person feel loved the way you did when you forst met.<br />You do not need to change your ways, just bring back the good ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-33962897676906011652011-07-26T15:47:24.068-05:002011-07-26T15:47:24.068-05:00I need advice. See my priblem is lust. I love my wife very very much but when anither female notices me i tend to forget about my wife and try to go for the new girl. Please help..jonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05555878707166137567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-14878251546659970292011-07-20T04:50:13.080-05:002011-07-20T04:50:13.080-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Hilaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01929801123963906077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-87904525228195230772011-06-17T06:57:26.816-05:002011-06-17T06:57:26.816-05:00I wonder if it might help people to sit back and consider what first attracted you to your partner.<br /><br />Do you love them only because they love you?<br /><br />Personally, I challenge myself that I vowed to love my wife, and nowhere in that vow was there a mention of &quot;only if she loves me back&quot;.<br /><br />My promise was to give, and I will give and go on giving because I love my wife.<br /><br />I know she loves me and wish we could be more intimate, but whether there is some response or not, I choose to keep giving, and keep loving.<br /><br />There is no room for selfishness in marriage. Jennifer is absolutely right - true happiness comes from giving.<br /><br />God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-7573932508693990002011-06-01T08:25:48.358-05:002011-06-01T08:25:48.358-05:00I have been with the same man for almost three years now. I was actually pregnant with twins and then we lost them at 22 weeks due to premature labor. About 2 months later I started providing daycare for a women and her 3 children.I have always been completely faithful to anyone that I have ever dated, but when I met her Ex and he started flirting with me I was flooded by those endorphins that you talked about. I care for my boyfriend very much and I know that those endorphins i get with the Ex wont last forever, I just want to hear your thoughts about this please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-59551765255945121242011-01-10T09:03:26.616-05:002011-01-10T09:03:26.616-05:00Beneficial info and excellent design you got here! I want to thank you for sharing your ideas and putting the time into the stuff you publish! Great work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-39315756179375387842010-12-12T14:16:20.197-05:002010-12-12T14:16:20.197-05:00I&#39;ve been dating this guy for a few years now. I think, I fell for how much he loved me. He&#39;s kind and gentle. But he really doesn&#39;t make his own decisions, he&#39;s never been exciting. We never really did have that butterfly feeling. <br /><br />We have always been friends. Best friends. <br />I&#39;m just sort&#39;ve afraid that that&#39;s all we are. <br />The sex is rare, and has always been rare.<br />We&#39;re always holding hands or hugging. Kissing feels forced. Sex is awkward at best. He&#39;s rarely into it. Same on my part. <br /><br />But I love him. And he loves me. We have plans together, we have the same goals, we can say anything to each other.<br />But there&#39;s never been a passion or a fire. <br />Not a real one.<br /><br />Should we just be friends on this one? We want to fix it. <br />We both would not rather have kids with anyone else. We both have the same dreams... but is that really love? Or convenience..?BrightEyednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-78833378157864709272010-07-11T13:22:21.199-05:002010-07-11T13:22:21.199-05:00It&#39;s important to know whether you are in a relationship or not before undertaking this method. An emotionally unavailable man/woman will NOT respond no matter how loving or giving you are. If the giving hurts because nothing is coming back, then it&#39;s time to do some soul searching about whether you are rowing your boat alone or not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-8085033684527549932010-06-26T03:52:34.313-05:002010-06-26T03:52:34.313-05:00hey, <br />id like some advice, its been 11 months since me n my guy have been dating but not we&#39;ve reached a point where he feels like he isn really in a relationship anymore. n that he knows he loves me but feels like we&#39;ve drifted apart. what do i do?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-44175574741154409262010-04-12T10:02:30.843-05:002010-04-12T10:02:30.843-05:00thanks for the advice in the &quot;rekindle, reignite &amp; revive your relationship&quot; column. i can &amp; will continue to follow the advice. my one BIG question is how can i encourage my wife to buy into this concept since she feels like she has &quot;fallen out of love&quot; with me? i believe the concept/approach of &quot;the more you give to another, the more YOU love the person to whom you give&quot;, but since she feels the love has faded will you please give advice on getting a partner to be willing to at least try this approach? thanks in advance. anxiously awaiting a response.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-46874440687761996302010-02-24T01:52:41.860-05:002010-02-24T01:52:41.860-05:00Hi, I&#39;m very interested in rekindling my marriage and I assume my husband is too. However, I&#39;m sure there are things that I&#39;m lacking and visa-versa but I feel that all of the long talks about our marriage and not to get too personal but about more intimacy I feel that he&#39;s avoiding the problem and unwilling to work on it. When I talk to him about it I feel that he takes it like I&#39;m pressuring him or telling him what to do when my intentions are not to pressure him or control him but to let him know that I feel that we have a problem. <br />My real question is, how do I rekindle intimacy in my marriage if I feel that my husband is not willing to meet me half way?<br />Let me just clarify it&#39;s not that he&#39;s unwilling to be intimate with me it&#39;s more about how frequent we are intimate which is days or sometimes weeks too long. <br /><br />Thank you for your time and help, <br />AnnetteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-17675416191434509152010-02-10T00:38:36.373-05:002010-02-10T00:38:36.373-05:00Well i personally agree! I almost left my longterm boyfriend because i was searching for that new relationship high, but couldnt because i love him. We talked n then i read this article and it fit perfectly with what im feeling!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-5052948383129175742009-12-17T06:32:48.764-05:002009-12-17T06:32:48.764-05:00village aiello concurrent kumarmba sheer logs weiden crux prescribing shared transforms <br />masimundus semikonecoloriAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-41897689218200291462009-09-10T22:50:38.544-05:002009-09-10T22:50:38.544-05:00Hi,<br /><br />The problem with me is I feel like I give so much more than my partner does and it hurts. I hate feeling like I love him more. It seems like he doesn&#39;t know how to express his love. I keep giving and giving and I feel like I get nothing in return...any suggestions on how to solve that problem?<br /><br />-GiverAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-58680415879338947222008-06-17T01:07:00.000-05:002008-06-17T01:07:00.000-05:00Let's say a woman,<BR/><BR/>When she began to date a guy, she is in a state of perfect crystallization of this guy. This is common. Everyone does it at least once. <BR/><BR/>However, the flaws began to reveal over time and that perfect crystal ball is shattered. Shock, frustrated, and the romance dies. <BR/><BR/>In my opinion, for a romance to have a chance to rekindle, 2 people must take a step to accept each other's flaw. Every one has flaw, you just don't see it when you are first surrounded with the thought of being happily ever after during your first date.Sherry@sherrylove.nethttp://sherrylove.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-51941677959000257892008-01-21T09:18:00.000-05:002008-01-21T09:18:00.000-05:00I enjoyed reading your posting. You've mentioned some great ideas to help spouses communicate their love and care for each other. I'm in the process of doing these things right now to rekindle my marriage, and it is working. Thanks for sharing these helpful tips. <BR/>Sincerely, Solomon Shulamite<BR/>http://marriageloveintimacypassionsex.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-28795340387404581652008-01-03T09:19:00.000-05:002008-01-03T09:19:00.000-05:00Hi dear Salihah,<BR/><BR/>Of course I remember you... I've missed you too!<BR/><BR/>I'm so happy to see you back online and I will check out your blog for SURE!<BR/><BR/>You are such a delightful sparkle in my cyberworld!<BR/><BR/>Love to you,<BR/>JenniferJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-47171673444998572802008-01-02T20:04:00.000-05:002008-01-02T20:04:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.CresceNetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-76735246532421486072007-12-31T21:19:00.000-05:002007-12-31T21:19:00.000-05:00Jennifer! I've missed you so much! I was offline for awhile...so glad to see you are still blogging. This article is priceless, thank you, thank you.<BR/><BR/>Much Love to You!<BR/>Salihah<BR/><BR/>(I don't know if you remember me...I used to be an avid reader, and I had the Finding Salihah blog, I've started a new blog now.)Salihahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16806054308739096582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-47233083197031049852007-12-27T11:12:00.000-05:002007-12-27T11:12:00.000-05:00Hi Siegfried,<BR/><BR/>Yes, we truly do need to take responsibility for our choices, behaviors, and relationships!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comments!<BR/><BR/>jenniferJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-53228436678057123242007-12-27T11:11:00.000-05:002007-12-27T11:11:00.000-05:00Hi T. Dorsey,<BR/><BR/>I'm glad this post gave you a little hope! :-)<BR/><BR/>We certainly do go through difficult times, they can either tear us apart or make us stronger and closer!<BR/><BR/>Best wisthes to you sweetie,<BR/><BR/>JenJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-71923895771311398652007-12-27T11:10:00.000-05:002007-12-27T11:10:00.000-05:00Hey Mark...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your wisdom. :-) You always provide important insight!<BR/><BR/>I hope you had a nice holiday!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/><BR/>jenJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-45312193336868847422007-12-24T08:31:00.000-05:002007-12-24T08:31:00.000-05:00Don't let passion override compassion. Be strong enough. But don't be a wussy.<BR/>Take responsibility.Siegfriedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08908421636158918372noreply@blogger.com