tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post6843870199634244414..comments2012-01-06T08:40:30.306-05:00Jennifer Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-12182300287250061942007-03-05T19:49:00.000-05:002007-03-05T19:49:00.000-05:00Hi George... thanks as always for your thoughts. :-) Yeah, this isn't the cure all for every difficult relationship, it is just a little way to help us change our thoughts and come up with new ways to keep the relationship alive. <BR/><BR/>As you suggest there are certainly times when we need to look at serious problems... absolutely! <BR/><BR/>Its just sometimes when we focus on the all the little negative things we get stuck... if we change our focus towards something positive, good things happen! :-)<BR/><BR/>Hope your day is a great one George, :-)<BR/><BR/>JenJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-2730986340914257412007-03-05T18:40:00.000-05:002007-03-05T18:40:00.000-05:00I am going to play devil's advocate for a moment. I don't think it is as easy as you are describing. Why? Because I believe we first have to go through the negative response questions. "Why didn't she come to the game with me?" She's embarrassed by me. "How come he doesn't pursue intimacy in bed any more?" He's having an affair.<BR/><BR/>If everything were just hunky-dory you wouldn't have to ask yourself any questions. I know that it won't be perfect but if you accept and are happy with what you have you are OK.<BR/><BR/>In order to be at the point where you are HAVING to ask yourself such questions you probably had the negative one first. If you did have those negative questions already aren't you going to be influenced by the negative answers you have rolling around in your mind?<BR/><BR/>I think I am simplyfing it too much, after all sometimes we do think of something nice to do for our partner (probably more women than men) and expect nothing in return.Georgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14369924981153052978noreply@blogger.com