tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post3113181827871762599..comments2012-01-20T09:14:45.081-05:00Jennifer Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-6937487211200920752012-01-18T09:39:51.307-05:002012-01-18T09:39:51.307-05:00This was an excellent piece of reading and good comments from several. <br />I on the other hand still search for this majical answer. Yes I am a man, a husband and my wife is very beautiful and she knows it as I let her know all the time. <br />I have done and do the things on this list at least 5 days out of the week. We have no small children but I do follow up with the teens to make sure homework is all done. I do 90% of all cooking at home, and I hold a full time career outside the home. My wife works because she chooses and I support her because like any person you have to feel the self worth and the success in life outside the home. <br />When my wife gets home from I normally have dinner ready or in the middle of cooking it, she loves this, after dinner she puts the dishes in the dish washer. <br />I take care of my own laundry and will include hers including hanging and folding her clothes. <br />In short my wife has an easy life and I told her when I gave her my hand in marriage how I am and that she would always be the queen of my world and treated like one. <br />By doing these things at home has &quot;not&quot; helped in her interest in me at all in any form of intimacy. I do not do all these things to just have her be intimate but for her to be able to come home and have quality time with me or her sons. <br />I am like this no matter what and I never change my ways just because she does not have the sexual interest. <br />Romance, yes I am very romantic with her , from the smallest to the biggest ways possible. I write little notes and send to her, I call and let her voice mails at work just to let her know I am thinking of her and love her and how beautiful she is. I write her poems that describe how I feel with her and how she makes me feel. For valentines day last year I transformed our home into a French Resturant, I cooked her favorite dish and her most favorite wine on the table.We ate soft candle lights, dinner in front of our natural fireplace, just a calm enjoyable evening for two. She ate and talked for 30 minutes after dinner and then went to sleep. *WHAT* <br />Now I know a womans body changes over time and her desires change with that but I do not know what to make of all of this. Sometime I think I am too nice and too good to her and I should stop making life so easy. <br />We have been married 6 yrs, yes second marriage for both. I am in my late 40&#39;s and she just turned 40. Lately I feel she just don&#39;t have interest in me , she does not like to go out for drinks and dance with me,yet if she goes with her friends that is the first thing they do. <br />I am on wits end,this once a month sometimes and every other month intimacy is definately causing one to loose the luster in the relationship. Have I sat and talked and communicated these things to her, yes, what has she said, she what I call &quot;yes&#39;s&quot; me to get me to shut up. Refuses and thinks counseling is stupid. <br />Like women, men need to feel an interest in them, both romantically,sexually and lovingly. When you don&#39;t see this men or women alike will stray. I have not strayed and will not but I also can&#39;t accept this way of life. <br />Anyone got any comments or suggestions, I am open to discussing further to see if I am just missing something or what the deal is.Guyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13007751603996218892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-49393343186882910282012-01-07T07:38:40.011-05:002012-01-07T07:38:40.011-05:00hi friends my is monday am sigul looking for a good woman to get maraid to.i think a ril man most know how to be romatic to is wife .and know how make is wife reles more than 2 times a niht .<br />eny one intrested can call me wit my number +2348030872424 thanks hope to here from soon<br />becos i dont come to dis site all de time byeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-71195203113466049952011-12-18T17:41:31.178-05:002011-12-18T17:41:31.178-05:00I&#39;m 26 years old and I&#39;ve been with my gf for about 3 years. I&#39;ve invested a lot of energy and money making her happy and about this last year we haven&#39;t had sex at all . She always has excuses for everything, to make this shorter my history it&#39;s the same as everyone else in this forum. I&#39;ve even take her to wonderful cruises and expensive nice places where we can enjoy the perfect atmosphere to be connected and guess what ?? It&#39;s always a complete fiasco. It&#39;s really hard to hold on to this desire because she&#39;s a very pretty girl who has a wonderful body. I&#39;m on good shape and I spend hours at the gym every day so I don&#39;t think it&#39;s because she doesn&#39;t like me .<br />Anyways I&#39;m moving on for this dramatic relationship after wasting 3 years of my life with someone who couldn&#39;t fix their sexual life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-35863336668292015382011-12-15T11:48:28.669-05:002011-12-15T11:48:28.669-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tony Familiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01383624644415814642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-55487721166454701482011-12-14T12:05:34.634-05:002011-12-14T12:05:34.634-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Tony Familiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01383624644415814642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-2801238052408787492011-12-13T03:57:56.699-05:002011-12-13T03:57:56.699-05:00Sorry to rain on everyones parade but ladies in most cases have lower sex drives than men qte scientifically proven. So what happens over time is ladies realise that they have this power and use it to there advantage,its called evoluation. Some men who have lower sex drives than there wife often find the wife is then manipulated so this thread should not have even started. Sorry all of your arguments are wrong. Because i care. feel free to challenge me on this topic.<br /><br />Also if you are going to try and help people make sure you know the core of the problem. Times are changing its already started.<br /><br /><br />Dr Karl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-71015503602552123832011-11-28T17:28:54.432-05:002011-11-28T17:28:54.432-05:00Hello, I have a question about this entire comment page and topic. I am only 24 years old, married and have a 2 year old daughter, I am also an Afghanistan Veteran who recently got home about 4 months ago. my wife and I&#39;s sex relationship well.... SUCKS! she is never in the mood for sex unless she is drunk. I do all of those things that are listed here and she still does not respond. i feel like this... why do i have to do all of this work and effort for her to screw me but she has to do well...nothing. i thought relationships where suppose to be 50/50, meet in the middle kind of deal but apparently not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-23198251659690048302011-11-27T00:30:08.603-05:002011-11-27T00:30:08.603-05:00In reading this article on has to realize their is a line as well if you have a woman like my wife she will take advantage of you doing this stuff especially taking care of the kids and still not give it up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-50853854096460728962011-11-18T10:48:50.632-05:002011-11-18T10:48:50.632-05:00**********************************<br /><br />**********************************<br /><br />I am a married man and I can speak from experience on this subject. Let me tell you what worked for us...<br /><br />Yes, the author is correct that the man needs to put his wife on a pedestal and make her a queen. The man needs to completely reject his ego and think hard/often about what his wife likes and what makes her happy. He must serve his queen with honor and humility.<br /><br />BUT!<br /><br />The wife must have the exact same behavior. She becomes the servant of a king! She serves him with nurturing love and praise! She invests completely in building him up to be the man she wants by love and worship, not by criticism .<br /><br />The politics of fighting, control and sexless marriages are all about one&#39;s ego. That is, &quot;what do I get out of the deal&quot;. When that mindset stops and when both people truly commit to the other&#39;s happiness, BOTH immediately achieve the depth of love and intimacy they desire. What is stopping the two of you from this selfless act? YOUR EGOS.<br /><br />Sit with your spouse and talk about a life together where you both worship each other and turn your ego based relationship into one that transcends the ego.<br /><br />I am confident it will work for you. It worked for us!<br /><br />Respectfully,<br /><br />Guru J<br /><br />**********************************<br /><br />**********************************Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-62531716195946575652011-11-12T19:41:39.690-05:002011-11-12T19:41:39.690-05:00prawn cocktailAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-17240653038826023442011-11-07T19:44:55.664-05:002011-11-07T19:44:55.664-05:00It is amazing to me how long the comments continue to come on this post! <br />I am a newlywed to a wonderful man and we are going through issues that have led me to try to find help, or at least others who can relate, online. My husband has a VORACIOUS appetite for sex, I... not so much. I feel that he loves me inspite of this big difference. <br /><br />I truly believe that sex is a healthy and vital part to a happy marriage for both parties. I also feel that there I only so much one can gain from an online site such as this. All relationships experiencing difficulty in the physical intimacy department are comprised of two INDIVIDUALS. The couple need to both determine if they want to work together to improve theor relationship. After agreeing on that, each individual needs to commit to having an open mind an doing their part, remembering the greater good - a happier spouse, self, marriage, family/household. <br /><br />Yes, many of the points in the article are valid, so are many comments from readers. Women want to feel appreciated and loved. We want help with the day-to-day things. We want to feel wanted and valued and sexy! But we should also do our part to give men what they desire in a relationship. Compromise is NOT a bad word! Not that my husband an I have figured it all out - We have argued, we have both &quot;given in&quot; to the other (I know that&#39;s not a nice way of putting it, but it is what it is), we have sulked in silence, we have made up. But when it comes down to the heart of the matter, we love each other, we WANT to be married to each other, we want our marriage to be successful! We have to figure out what each of us needs. Sometimes you may find someone online with similar experiences, sometimes the circumstances of others will differ. It doesn&#39;t mean that someones suggestions or opinions are invalid or b.s., it just means that (if you&#39;ve tried consistently for a significant period of time and it hasn&#39;t worked) that you and your relationship have a different set of needs. Go to different websites, read different books, go to a therapist, get a hobby, get a joint hobby to spend time together building and cultivating a different part of your relationship. But do NOT cheat, do NOT get addicted to porn, do NOT ignore the issue. <br /><br />COMMUNICATE and WORK TOGETHER, advance the LOVE that brought you together in the first place. Work on yourself and what you can do to be a better spouse and if each person does this, I believe it will all work out in the end. whew, now, off to take my own advice... I should consider a counseling degree... just kidding. lol<br />Laughter is the best medicine.<br />Love conquers all!<br /><br />Take care and best to you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-90403042519860618242011-11-06T14:57:27.105-05:002011-11-06T14:57:27.105-05:00Let me just say that I have read through the majority of comments here. I did find the article interesting, however it is also misleading. What I have found is that the majority of married women just lose their desire to have sex. They also don&#39;t feel they should explain their feelings to their husbands.<br /><br />Guys...don&#39;t kill yourselves doing stuff you don&#39;t want to do. If you find you are doing more and more, and she is coming up with more and more you SHOULD be doing, she is just stringing you along. I know this because it is the same thing I go through. I love my wife, and I love providing for her and giving her everything she wants. I have not told my wife NO in 10 years of marriage, and that pertains to everything.<br /><br />That being said I now realize that if I wish to have sex more than 3-4 times a YEAR I will be seeking it from other places. You women should realize while you do hold the keys to the vault, yours isn&#39;t the only one out there. There is no monopoly on vagina, we will get it some place else. And eventually you will find out and be in denial on why we went else where.<br /><br />I have had numerous discussions with my wife in our 10 year marriage about the lack of sexual activity. It seems that there is always a reason, however most seem extremely petty and very much lack of effort/caring on her part.<br /><br />As a man/husband/father I feel like I go above an beyond to provide a very good life for my wife and family. What do I ask for in return? Affection. I get hugs and kisses from my kids at all times of the day and night. It is my wife that refuses to buy in and find more and more reasons why there is no action.<br /><br />I personally believe it is simple chemistry, and I don&#39;t mean between us. I mean inside of her body. All the stuff we put into our bodies helps determine how things work. My wife has been on the same birth control for 15 years, while it works for its main purpose I believe that its main side affect is that it kills her sex drive. Unfortunately in our case she could care less about that side affect. Since she does not have the need / urge for sex she does not believe that I should either. She also carries the belief that no man has ever dies from lack of sex, and she intends to prove it I believe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-39677697002277001872011-10-16T19:40:14.910-05:002011-10-16T19:40:14.910-05:00Sorry but this list is B.S. The title says how to put her in the MOOD. Taken out the garbage, and doing the dishes does not make a woman HORNY. Why does ALL advice to MEN written by WOMEN always entail how to KISS her ASS? Why can&#39;t you just be truthful? I want to know to get my girlfriend HORNY, NOT how to relieve her of chores. Males can give better advice about women, then women do. Guys women are MENTAL. If you want her in that HORNY frame of mind start early in the day by texting sexy things during the day, and put her in that FRAME of MIND. I learned this from MEN&#39;s advice and it WORKS. I was looking for more advice but this is B.S!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-65417256411893165682011-09-10T07:45:55.888-05:002011-09-10T07:45:55.888-05:00What happens when the 10 ways do not work? Then what? I have tried even discussing this &quot;problem&quot; in our relationship and even the conversation is avoided by her. I know 110% she is not cheating and it is destroying the marriage on my end. It has been over a year and don&#39;t want to cheat but sometimes I feel I do like I am running out of options. Please help :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-85640297357916397952011-08-08T16:28:49.555-05:002011-08-08T16:28:49.555-05:00OK Men let&#39;s cut the BS here and get down to what you really have to do to get more sex:<br /><br />1. Get to work on your body... train at least once every two days with heavy weights and sculpt your flab into muscle, at least one hour sessions! At the very least you will blow off steam and feel much better about yourself, even if you still aren&#39;t getting any sex. Once the abs are becoming toned and the biceps are getting huge, you should start to see a slight change in her attitude.<br /><br />2. As you are bulking up your body the whole time, do this one important thing: pretend to be content and happy no matter what happens. Make it seem like nothing she does can anger you. Make it seem like your life is perfect. Make it seem like SHE couldn&#39;t do anything better for you. Of course don&#39;t let any lack of sex steer you off this course at this point, it is still early...<br /><br />3. If you look at Porn... QUIT it! Nothing will ruin a relationship and cause more aggravation in your relationship than pornography. Even if you do it in secret, a dark cloud hangs over those who use porn. It causes EXTRA strain on yourself and on your relationship, trust me.<br /><br />4. Take up some extra curricular activities... no I am not talking about an affair. Join a group (church, book club, sports team etc.) or go for runs and long walks to keep your mind off of sex. Sharpen up your skills (mind and body), take a class etc. Work on your tan! Get a better LIFE. Your spouse will likely wonder what has gotten into you at this point.<br /><br />5. Get some NEW clothes, the best you can afford, and go out in them with or without her (i.e. to the library or movies or something fairly innocent). Buy some NEW cologne and get a haircut or grow a rough beard, etc. Change things up constantly and make yourself mysteriously attractive like you did when you were young. By doing these things you will get her wondering what has gotten into you... (Is he having an affair? Does he still love me?) but above all don&#39;t tell them you are following any plan!! And remember to be happy and let them know how much she makes YOU happy.<br /><br />5. Realize you are not a dog and there is more to life than her giving you sex. Once you have done all these things you&#39;ll realize one of two things:<br /><br />a) you are getting more sex (90% probability)<br /><br />or <br /><br />b) you are not getting any more sex but you are now a much more happy, revitalized and dynamic person than you were before, and you did all you could do to get more sex. Where you want to go after this with regards to your relationship and personal development is your choice.<br /><br />Please remember, women love the bad guys with mystique, etc. This is why they watch all those terrible &quot;romantic&quot; shows like Grey&#39;s Anatomy, etc. They want the bad guy. They love the bad guy. So BE the bad guy without actually being bad. Look like him, dress like him, but be good and committed to your relationship. Show her a little of your own mystique and keep her guessing. She will come running back to you with leg... er I mean arms wide open. I guarantee it.<br /><br />Good luck!Shelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-64389043700513106892011-08-07T15:47:59.060-05:002011-08-07T15:47:59.060-05:00Umm. I just tried it. It didn&#39;t work. Maybe it was because she caught me reading off the list...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-5917524638596049792011-07-27T01:44:55.547-05:002011-07-27T01:44:55.547-05:00I am currently deployed to Afghan and my wife and I are having trouble staying intimate. I know that it can be very uncomfortable to say things insted of doing them but I still have needs. Should I just focus on what I am really hear for and keep it in my pants for 7 months or is it really too much to ask for a little help. I stumbled accross your site while trying to figure out ways to make our love stronger because deployments can tear a marrage apart. I found that alot of the info that I read I will be able to use even while I am here. So for that I thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-3280258349484372662011-07-10T12:11:00.748-05:002011-07-10T12:11:00.748-05:00I wish there was a &#39;how to get your man in the mood&#39; article, because it&#39;s the opposite in my house! I am desperate for sex but my husband is constantly tired and unwilling. He has put me in the same catch 22 as many men in this thread: he wants me to initiate sex but finds neediness a turnoff. I never had to initiate sex, so I don&#39;t know how to. And I don&#39;t like to. I find being desired a must. Result: I get resentful, angry and complaining; he gets turned off even more. I got it right once and with the help of the kitchen table and a few meaningful looks, managed to stoke up a raging fire, which was incredible. But not long-lasting, as he went back to his unmoved ways shortly after. He swears blind that he loves me and promises he is not having an affair. Maybe I&#39;m stupid but I do believe him. I do not want sex outside of the marriage. I want my favorite man, the one I married and the father of my children. After a blazing row that had me reeling and considering divorce quite seriously, and after reading a few of these articles, I have made a concerted effort to be more loving and appreciative of him and have killed the <br />nagging. But he still calls the kids to our bed when we are snuggling and a variety of other little things designed to stem any possible flow of passion. He is ten years older than me and perhaps feels like marriage should be comfortable and loving whereas I am 35 and at my peak (!!) and desperate not to put on those comfy slippers just yet. I also feel that my looks and body might not last another ten years and I want to enjoy them now. I feel so inadequate when I hear about men&#39;s legendary sex drives, that I cannot get a second glance let alone a good seeing to! Girls, you are taking something very good for granted!Lizzienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-22421237596514757922011-06-30T03:09:43.666-05:002011-06-30T03:09:43.666-05:00I am only 38 years old &amp; had a full hysterectomy at 32 years old - (problems conceiving) &amp; am in a new relationship but love making or lack of it is frustrating me. My wife is very patient with me, I have gone to get treatment so they have raised my hormone levels. Now they have decided that I need Psycho-sexual therapy, as the original treatment is not working. There is a lot going on up there, so this needs sorting before anything so sometimes guys/girls it is not always your fault &amp; it just happens to someone at sometime in their life. this site is very useful it is by no means meant to be a bible its what ever works for your relationship - just try it.<br /><br />For a women her brain is the biggest turn on &amp; this has been proven, but what you have to realise is that a womens brain works ten to the dozen and she is often thinking about the next job or chore that she has to do and by helping him/her with her jobs &amp; all the small things she will appreciate it more - a useful peace of advice is just say thankyou to either partner for the job that they do, be spontaneous just give him/her a hug &amp; say you know what I love you so much....this speak volumes &amp; means so much &amp; you wanted to give them a hug, they then dont feel pressured &amp; just loved. Just saying this means that you care &amp; it will release the happy hormomes in the brain. just do things as a couple again get that connection back.<br /><br />Start talking again, make him/her laugh - go out &amp; woo your partner, it does not have to cost anything just be spontaneous but most of all get them out of the house, they get into there routine. I feel that even just lying there holding your partner all night like you used to will help, not just turning your back as normal &amp; go to your side of the bed. Be naked of course with not pushing for love making will help. Sometimes bed is the only place that couples can talk or can have a huge big silence in the air, either of you can say something very silly at random to make the other laugh - laughter is a powerful medicine, it breaks the silence &amp; makes us feel good. Try to talk about stuff not related to the day, kids, work, house - this will open communications again as this is often the biggest cause of problems in the relationship/marriage, let one person speak without interruptions (you might learn something)but never start with you...use the phrase I feel that/like.<br /><br />Communication, laughter, affection are the the three biggest reasons that intimacy could be missing - it is not always one persons fault, it is two people in a relationship/marriage &amp; comes with the fact that our roles change &amp; we end up with responsibilities or routine that we get into...but this can make us into a downward spiral sometimes and result in depression so there are many issues that cause lack of intimacy &amp; its not always anyones fault it just happens..when you realise THAT things will get easier but get help as a couple, get councilling, speak to other couples who your friends with,go to sites like this but get talking as in the UK 1 in 3 marriages end in divorce due to lack of communication, adultery is exciting but it is a symptom of breakups not a cause as there are other major issues in the relationship/marriage. If one person notices that there is something wrong then chances are the other noticed it a long time ago &amp; may not want to say anything.<br /><br />some people get by without the love making and happy with when they do not have the pressure there - it is fireworks when it does happen, just be patient. relationships/marriage is like a beautiful rare orchid, it needs careful nurturing, the right conditions, takes years of patient and lots of love for it to get to be the beautiful bloom in the world.Paula xnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-45953966236674232432011-06-11T18:09:21.332-05:002011-06-11T18:09:21.332-05:00haha<br />what a joke.<br />you can do all this until the cows come home. Yeah, you&#39;ll have a great relationship with your woman, but does it help get her &quot;in the mood&quot;?<br />no. <br />ya know what will? lower the lights, fire up a few candles, etc. make a sexy scene, kiss ever square inch of her body.<br />that will get her &quot;in the mood&quot;<br />your advice is all about making her feel completely in love with you. thats fine, nothing wrong with that, but your article is titled wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-71121843134834723132011-04-26T05:51:21.376-05:002011-04-26T05:51:21.376-05:00So i have to do things that turn me off in oder to turn her on? Great back to square one :-(Roberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123474288114810965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-21570294830268174462011-03-24T21:14:55.297-05:002011-03-24T21:14:55.297-05:00Rai. I hear u. U feel like an ass saying it but my wife is all my son which I am thankful for but.... The relationship is non exsistant. U might as well not even be there. That is the way it is with me anyway.Teddy bearnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-75265932109366155622011-03-24T20:58:58.492-05:002011-03-24T20:58:58.492-05:00A lot of back and fourth. U thinking all have issues. My wife and I are 30 years old with an. 11 month old. We have had sex in about 6 months! She isn&#39;t even into kissing or any intimate act even a hug. I tried everything. Even being vulnerable and telling her how I feel. I am a baby for it. I try romantic things tell her I luv her she I&#39;d pretty rub her head etc. She rolls her eyes. I do a lot around the house. I own my own business and am gutting my kitchen while playing with my son and taking care of him along with my wife. I have gotten to the point where I figured if I don&#39;t try or pretend like &quot; I don&#39;t need her&quot; she could care less. When the baby is asleep it is facebook or tv for her she is tired. At first I was busy and didn&#39;t think about it. But he&#39;ll I have a sex drive. Can&#39;t take it anymore. And don&#39;t know what to do. I went from being unhappy to upset and angry. I even confronted her and asked her to speak with someone with me. She says &quot; why or get over it, or get over yourself, or there are more important things, we are to busy u should know that. I am so mad I almost can&#39;t take it anymore. I have a hi sec drive to! This makes it worse. I am sitting hear writing while she watches greys anatomy and people kiss on the show and I want to punch something. I need help. Is she trying to get me to stray! I can&#39;t I luv her to much. But f-k. Literally come on!Teddy bearnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-16676470616020754182011-03-19T03:33:26.926-05:002011-03-19T03:33:26.926-05:00My terrible assumption was that once my wife and I were married, she would open up more and be more intimate. Wrong. What happened was that the care of our child took 100% precedence and I spend more time working.Rainoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-80186310457752831002011-02-18T15:45:56.855-05:002011-02-18T15:45:56.855-05:00Well I have read most of these post and come to the conclusion that their is no real formula. Everybody is different, for instance, in my marriage of 20yr&#39;s<br />the first 4 years was exploritory. Example: I wont do the dishes, she wont fix the car when it brakes down. I wont vaccum and she wont clean the car garage. so you see their is comin ground once you get past the wont, and get right to the I will do&#39;s. Life with eachother will be much better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com