tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post1590641694847653363..comments2008-01-17T12:46:22.688-05:00Jennifer Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3240135571858542479.post-77650439032017466792008-01-17T12:46:00.000-05:002008-01-17T12:46:00.000-05:00As a former mormon Branch president, I found myself often counseling youth on how to avoid "unintentional" sexual relationships - you know, the kind where you don't intend to have sex with someone, but get carried away in the heat of the moment.<BR/><BR/>My standard, basic advice was: make decisions about potential temptations ahead of time - don't wait until you are alone with an attractive person, and have the time and opportunity for sex, to decide how you will act, because by then it may be too late. Set boundaries <I> before </I> you need them.<BR/><BR/>In particular, take the time, when making such decisions, to think through the consequences of your actions. <BR/><BR/>Totally unromantic, right?<BR/><BR/>I've been told, often, that I'm cold and unspontaneous. But I'd like to think that that advice may have saved someone from actions that he/she would regret later.<BR/><BR/>I'm no longer involved in counseling youth, or anyone else, and no longer a believer in mormonism, but I still think that one of the greatest attributes of humans is that they are capable of exploring hypothetical situations and making contingency plans.<BR/><BR/>btw, I love your articles, and see a lot of wisdom in them. Thanks.malkiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10620568715773842591noreply@blogger.com