Friday, August 21, 2009

My Brother Died...

On August 10th, this world lost one of the most amazing people there could ever be, my brother Jack.

After a difficult few years dealing with cancer and its many complications he is finally free of pain and no longer struggling for life. And we will miss him... so very much.

Everyone who knew my brother was touched by his deep kindness, his concern for each person he met, and the depth of his love and care for humankind. He was one of those incredible people who know what it is to live in a state of compassion, literally changing the lives of those who even briefly had a chance to meet him.

The kindness he has shown will not be forgotten, in fact I'm certain he has impacted this planet in ways far beyond what he could have imagined. As he traveled the world he shared his gifts of gentleness and understanding with whomever he encountered.

I recall a fabulous story of a time when he was in Thailand and a prostitute kept soliciting his services. He asked her if she had children; she did. He asked her how much for one day; she responded twenty dollars. He gave her twenty dollars and told her to go spend the day with her children.

Jack was just like that.

Always taking care of people. Always concerned for children. In fact, several years ago he gave up a very successful career in the US and moved to Vietnam to open schools in impoverish areas.

He truly used his time on this Earth to make the world a better place.

Even as he approached death, he was thinking of everyone else.

Just a few weeks ago, as I sat in the emergency room with Jack and his wife, Jack was hooked up to oxygen and had been heavily sedated, while his wife and I softly chatted; I commented on how cold the ER was. We thought Jack was pretty out of it but he pushed the button on the remote control for the nurse. The nurse quickly entered the room and Jack, using all his energy said in a raspy voice, "warm blanket." She immediately returned with a warm blanket and began to spread it over Jack when he said, "for my sister."

Always thinking of others.

I miss him so much.

To those who have written me in the past month, I'm sorry I have not returned emails and responded to comments. I have been out of town, away from my computer and spending time with my brother, and then planning his funeral. It has been a long and difficult few months.

Please know I read all comments and emails and while I may not completely catch up, my heart goes out to you. I will do my best to get back to you but it may take a while.

Love to all,

Jennifer

42 comments:

Kanefire said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. :(

KoffeeBean said...

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Several years ago, I also lost my brother. He died very suddenly just a few weeks before his 40th Birthday. I still miss him lots.
My thoughts are with you.
Diane

Dierdre said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you...
Dierdre

Tara said...

I am so sorry to read about your loss. :( I lost my sister in a car accident almost 4 years ago, but her spirit is still alive and kicking. At least your brother is in a place where he can still watch over you and feel no pain.

Anonymous said...

Just stumbled across your blog today, in search of some relationship advice...
So sorry to hear of your loss. I know how hard it is to lose someone who means so much to you.
That being said, after reading some of your blogs, I have determined that you are a beautiful, strong and positive person, and I know you will make it through.
Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Peace and Love.
Danielle

Emerging From The Fire said...

My deepest condolences.

Angela said...

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your brother was an amazing person, who touched so many lifes.

sandy,phd said...

I'm a new reader but want to say how sorry I am you lost your brother. Your tribute to him is so touching. He sounds like such a warm and caring man.

Anonymous said...

When you look at the sky, smile because your brother is there :)

Big hug :)

Anonymous said...

Jennifer,

I have never left you a comment before, but I read your blog regularly, and this site helped me through a very difficult time in my life. If your brother had a touch of the humanity and love you exhibit in your writing, then I am sure he was a wonderful person. I am sorry for your loss.

Andrea

Lotus Flower said...

I can totally sympathize with you. I also just lost a younger brother to colon cancer.

Like you, I loved my brother deeply, fully understanding the quirks of his personality. He had 3 children aged 15, 13 and 3.

I didn't realize how much I loved him till he was gone.

My condolences to you and the family.

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Hi, I just discovered your blog and wanted to express compassion for your loss. I hope you have a lot of good people to walk through the sadness with you. It sounds like your brother left a beautiful legacy of love in his wake.

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Ahya Rolluqui said...

Losing someone isn't always easy, especially someone as close as a brother. I am saddened always when a person loses a family member. It's not fair but its the cycle of life. May God give you more strength in accepting. God bless. :)

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