Get Back that Loving Feeling... An Absolutely, Positively, Guaranteed Way to Improve your Marriage

Are you are "falling out of love"?

Is the passion fading?

Are you losing interest in your partner?

Let me assure you, there is hope!

There are many ways to improve your relationship and I have blogged about quite a few but this post is giving you one of the most important, most clear, and most powerful ways to get back that loving feeling!

It is a simple thing, costs nothing, and everyone can do it..... ready?

Give more to your partner.

Simple and yet amazingly powerful!

Now, let me explain and give a little more information about this amazing phenomenon.

Several years ago, as an psychology undergraduate my very first real research project was designed to see if there was a positive correlation between the investment in a relationship and the love one feels toward their spouse.

Turns out there was a statistically significant correlation.

The more one gives to his or her spouse, the more one feels loving toward their partner.

Now, of course my research was simple and not exactly journal worthy however since that time I have followed this topic and as it turns out, it is absolutely true that the more we invest in something the more we attach to it.

In relationships it means that the more energy we expend to the partnership the more we connect; the more we give to our partner, the more love we feel.

Human tendency is such that we often feel that if we give something to another, the recipient of our love will love us more, and of course there is this element, but it turns out, more importantly the more we give to another the more WE LOVE THEM.

Virtually one hundred percent of those who state they no longer love their spouse, upon reflection will admit that they have ceased to energize their marriage by giving of their time, energy, devotion, dedication, and love.

If you want to love your spouse more, give more.

Let's look a few other examples to demonstrate this phenomenon.

The more time one gives to a charity or cause the more he cares about those he serves. The more money one donates to a political candidate, the more she feels a connection to her politician. The more one invests in a creative work or difficult undertaking, the more they care about its completion. The more one works toward a goal, the more they want to accomplish it.

Again, similarly, the more a couple gives to the relationship and their respective spouses, the more love THEY feel toward their partner.

How do you give to your spouse?

A few questions to ask yourself:

How much time do you spend trying to please your partner.

How much time do you spend appreciating your spouse's good qualities, fabulous traits or amazing abilities and talents.

How much time do you consciously engage in activities or behaviors that you know make your partner's life happier?

How much time do you spend bringing fun, delight, and romance into your relationship?

How much energy do you expend making your marriage vibrant and healthy?

How often do you do something (anything) that demonstrates or articulates your love and care?

Typically, when a man or woman feels the love has gone, they are not doing those things that help love grow and flourish.

In sum, if you want to feel more loving, if you want to regain that connection, if you want your marriage to survive, invest in the relationship.

Do all those things you know make your marriage better.

Give to your spouse.

Give to your marriage.

Give to the relationship.

You will be surprised at how quickly you notice yourself feeling a renewed connection and care toward your partner.

More than anything your love will blossom!