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What is the very best advice for creating a strong, healthy, and loving intimate relationship?
The question has been researched, discussed, debated, and still, many wonder!
How do you create a strong marriage?
I've asked the question over and over to those I feel are the real "experts." Those whose successful, (over twenty years together), marriages are happy, enjoyable, and brimming with joy!
While not scientifically proven, here is twenty-five bits of advice that may be helpful, from those who really know!
1. Decide you will not get a divorce.
2. Start over each day determined to make your marriage great!
3. Forgive, forgive, forgive.
4. Remember no one is perfect.
5. Honesty is at the foundation of a good relationship.
6. Work on your own problems and shortcomings.
7. Never give up.
8. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence... in fact there may be no grass.
9. Refuse to give in to temptation, and don't let yourself get distracted from what is truly important in life.
10. Try to improve yourself every day and be the best you can be.
11. Make sure you always express your love and appreciation.
12. A marriage is not 50/50... it is 100/100.
13. Each time you get through a problem you become stronger.
14. Have a good attitude, be positive, and get over yourself.
15. You can't be selfish and have a fantastic marriage.
16. Do everything you can with everything you have to make it work.
17. Remember the little things make the difference.
18. It is not easy and requires a lot of work.
19. The happier you are with yourself, the more you bring to the marriage.
20. Get help if you need it!
21. Love your spouse with all your heart and keep up the romance.
22. Discuss, share, talk, converse and listen....communication is essential!
23. Remind yourself of your promise to love and honor each other.
24. Put your relationship above all others.
25. Help each other, comfort each other, love each other.
What would you add?
My personal advice for today is....
"soul mates are created, not found!"
If you had to give advice to a newly married couple today, what advice would you give them?
What advice do you wish you had going into your marriage?
Thursday, October 25, 2007
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4 comments:
Hi, Jen,
SPLENDID! I'm a newly wed (less than a year married) so I LOVE this post. May I remember them all for as long as we both shall live.
I agree with you COMPLETELY: soul mates are created indeed. ;-D
I think what I'd love to add is something that my friend once said...she jumped into the ocean of marriage thinking that the guy would change some things after the wedding. For example: he used to play basketball A LOT before the wedding. She expected that to change, but even after the wedding it didn't change. She said her expectation was wrong.
I guess unless the spouse wants to change, it's impossible to change him. And I know that women tend to want to "change" some things about the guys 'coz they want to help them live a better life...but instead they feel "controlled" by them he he he...
Well, I don't know how valid this is...I just know it from my friend's experiences.
Hi Amel...
I think it is great to learn from the real experts! :-)
And... you are absolutely correct that one can't go into a marriage with the expectation that one will change their spouse!
BIG mistake for sure!
I actually posted about this on my, 'How to tell if a guy is a jerk and find a terrific man," site!
One has to accept their partner, flaws and all to make a marriage work!
Nice insight and your uplifting and optimistic personality will for sure keep things alive! ;-)
Lots of love,
Jen
Oh...I haven't managed to go to your other blog. I'll check it out later on he he he...
THANKS for your compliments. I sure wanna make my marriage work he he he...that's why I love reading relationship advice. ;-D
Jennifer,
Nothing...absolutely nothing, is more important than the work you are doing to help men and women see the beauty and challenge and importance of marriage.
Here is a brief poem that recounts a true marriage experience I wrote for my sons.
The Kind of Woman to Marry
November 13, 1998
Dear Josh and Eamon,
We didn't go to the islands or Paris on our honeymoon. We went to Cape May, NJ, where the proprietor of a B&B refused us shelter because we arrived at 3 a.m. after an all night drive.
That first night we slept on the beach by the nun's convent near the lighthouse. It was freezing and my new bride (your mother) and I clung to each other for warmth.
Since that night, many others have slammed doors in our faces. Always, we've clung to each other near the outgoing tide and laughed with each sunrise after the cold, harsh night.
So marry a woman like that...one like your mother...one who shelters you from the cold and dark...both human and nature.
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