When Women Don't Want Sex

While the media would have us think that all men and women are loving sex and enjoying it every night and day in spectacular and fabulous ways, the reality is, millions of people are not sexually fulfilled in their intimate relationships.

Female Sexual Dysfunction is the diagnostic term therapists use to describe a lack of desire for, or repulsion toward, sex in females.

Since lack of sexual desire in women is a common and often serious negative component of some relationships I would like to briefly share some insights and information that may be beneficial.

First, some of the signs of Female Sexual Dysfunction are:

1. A consistent low desire for sexual activity, and/or no pleasurable anticipation or enjoyment.

2. Strong avoidance or repulsion to sexual contact even in loving and respectful relationships.

3. Lack of physiological response to sexual stimulation and arousal.

4. Genital pain, or involuntary spasm that prohibits sexual activity.

There are several possible reasons for Female Sexual Dysfunction.

First, there are medical issues that may be impacting ones sexuality.For examples, diabetes, hypertension, or thyroid disease may inhibit desire. There could be medications that inhibit sexual function, substances that interfere with sexual response. or actual physiological conditions that make sex uncomfortable or impossible. Hormonal changes may also make a difference in a woman's sexual desire.

Next, a therapist might look at a woman's past history including unhealthy sexual attitudes learned in one's family of origin, unhealthy religious views on sex and gender roles, and one's sexual history.

Current difficult circumstances may play a role in a woman's sexual desire. Lesbian tendencies, a secret affair, s sexual assault, abuse, depression, and other issues may all impact one's sexuality.

Various dynamics within a relationship also may contribute to a lack of desire for women. She may feel sex is a duty, or her partner is demanding. She may feel unappreciated and used. Sje may feel sex is a tool for control or power.

Finally, how a woman feels about herself greatly impacts her ability to enjoy sex. If she has low self-esteem, if she feels unattractive, if she struggles with feelings of sexual inadequacy, she may not desire any sexual activity.

What is important to understand when a woman is facing the challenge of lack of sexual desire is that there are reasons for this and there are ways to overcome the problem.




In the near future I will post an article on ideas to help heal the challenge of Female Sexual Dysfunction.