How to Make Sure You Are Never Unfaithful

Can you be certain you will never be unfaithful? Can you feel sure that you will never have an affair?

Absolutely!

While there is certainly a lot of advice and ideas on how to "affair-proof" a marriage, let me boil them down to three specific things partners can do to make sure they keep their promise of faithfulness.

1. Keep your marriage vibrant, loving, and healthy. We know that affairs do not happen in really healthy, happy, and fulfilling marriages. The more a relationship is alive and fulfilling, the less possibility of an affair. Couples that work on keeping their marriage loving and supportive reduce the change of infidelity.

2. Avoid temptation at all costs. Few who are unfaithful to their spouse set out to purposely destroy their marriage, break their loved one's heart, and harm their family. Affairs do not happen in this way.

Typically, a man or woman will slowly become interested in someone else, find a "friendship" more appealing than their spouse, or become attached to a co-worker in inappropriate ways. What starts out as an innocent flirtation, a listening ear, or a small little discretion grows into a dangerous and hurtful relationship.

If you want to avoid the heartache and devastation of an affair, do not allow yourself to engage in temptation. Remove yourself from it. Avoid it. Be repulsed by it.

3. Seek help from a professional when the relationship needs help. Too often, a relationship may go through challenges and one spouse or the other will give up or look elsewhere for fulfillment.

If your marriage is struggling, wilting, or if you are going through a difficult time, do not look for solace in a co-worker, neighbor, or "friend." Too often men and women, when their relationship is not quite as fulfilling as they would wish, find comfort in the listening ear or warm embrace of someone other than their spouse. Statements like, "my wife just doesn't understand my needs," or, "my husband doesn't listen," are the norm when affairs begin.

If you need help, get help......from a professional who is wanting to help your relationship, not help themselves to a relationship with you.

Continually work on your strengthening your marriage, avoid, like a plague, temptation, and seek professional help when needed, and the chance of you having an affair is virtually non-existent.