Rekindling the Spark....

Can a relationship that has withered and wilted be revitalized?

Can that "spark" be rekindled?

Yes! Absolutely! No question!

I've seen it happen over and over and over again. Even if you think it is impossible, I know it can happen.

There is only one requirement.... you have to want it. Really want it. As a couple, you have to want it enough to do the work to make the relationship vital once again. You have to want it enough to bring your best self to the relationship and to make the changes that are required for a healthy relationship filled with that "spark."

So, how does one do this?

You nurture the relationship. You nourish it with kindness, care, tenderness, understanding, patience, acceptance, and love.

For a relationship to have lost the "spark", it means it has not been attended to. It means the relationship has been ignored or even lost; it has become boring, routine, or even uncomfortable.

Physical intimacy and sexual desire are often a reflection of the dynamics within the relationship. They are the barometer to measure how strong is the relationship. When a couple does not feel emotionally connected or close, the desire for intimacy is often rare at best, non-existent at worst.

Women particularly, often need to feel cherished, loved, and adored to feel sexual desire for their partner. When these are missing, sex for some women may become less than satisfying or even quite difficult.

In addition, when people are busy, stressed, depressed, overwhelmed, tired, overworked, unappreciated, bored, or unhappy, sexual intimacy often diminishes or completely vanishes.

What is most often true is that the closer and more emotionally connected, and the stronger and more healthy the relationship, the brighter the spark. In unhealthy relationships the spark diminishes. As it grows and develops the spark brightens.



Over the next few days, my hope is to elaborate on this topic and give some very specific and clear ideas to bring that spark alive for both men and women.