The Universe is Relationship

At its core, the universe is relationship.

What I mean by this is that nothing could emerge without an interaction. Without relationships nothing would exist.

So what does this have to do with intimacy?

I believe it is through relationships that humankind brings forth our world. Whatever will come forth will emerge though our interactions and relationships.

This may sound a little esoteric but I believe this is actually one of the most profound understandings we can grasp regarding relationships.

This concept is also one of the reasons I am so passionate about intimacy and relationship.

Not only do our close and intimate relationships give us enormous pleasure and peace, they also are the very place where the depth of the human can emerge. It is in our intimate relationships where we can bring forth something only possible through that particular relationship.

For example, when we intimately interact with others we share ourselves in ways typically not expressed to the world, and we discover the depth of another in unique ways.

What comes out of this interaction is something completely new to the universe.

Much of the worlds great art, literature, music resulted because of interactions. We think of the great religious leaders and philosophers and they too seemed to bring forth their ideas as they interacted with the world in ways deeply intimate. We see loved ones as the inspiration for great inventions, amazing architecture, and lovely poetry.

It seems the more deeply shared an experience, the more beauty and sacred the relationship.

So what does this have to do with our personal relationships?

If our intimate relationships are a place where amazing things come forth, what is it that could come forth in any particular relationship? What is it we want to have exist? How is a particular relationship expanding one's heart or enriching one's mind?

Perhaps in your relationship there will emerge a deeper level of care? Maybe a new talent to listen? Possibly a new ability to laugh or cry? There may be an increase of tolerance and patience.

Together there may come new interests? New ideas? New ways of looking at the world?

Maybe as a relationship goes through a difficult time, there will be a new level of acceptance and understanding or an ability to forgive unlike anything one thought possible.

Perhaps a move toward selflessness will be noticed and appreciated.

Most likely in deep and intimate relationships there is an expanded ability to love.. truly and deeply love another.

Pondering the beauty that has come forth through our intimate relationships gives us a new appreciation for our partner and a reverence for our intimate interactions.

It also helps us value the growth and development we experience as we share our lives with another.