Soul Mates, Are they for Real?

Soul Mates, Are They For Real?

Is there such a thing as a soul mate?

How does one know if they found their soul mate?

Does everyone have a soul mate?

What exactly is a soul mate anyway?

The very idea of a soul mate is controversial... some suggest everyone has "a" soul mate, others suggest we live in soul families, still others think there is no such thing.

I take a different view.

I believe soul mates are made not found.

Sometimes we know right off that we have found the right person for us but more often than not, those couples who really seem to be soul mates are those who have endured a lifetime of trials, struggled through all sorts of challenges, worked together to form unbreakable bonds, accepted each others imperfections and quirks, overcome numerous obstacles, and kept on loving each other.

From my observation of the universe, it appears that creativity and creation come from tension, or to put it another way, it is by overcoming the trials of life that those deep relationships are often developed. It seems the very act of growing, learning, and facing challenges is what brings those bonds of intimacy and unity.

Of course love and intimacy are about more than the difficult times, but the difficult times seems almost necessary to the deepening of love.

It is easy to let go of relationships that are not perfect; to want a new partner if ours isn't quite matching up to our expectations, or to just want out when the going gets tough.

Yet, there is a strength that comes as we overcome the trials of life; a bond that brings a couple together in stronger ways than they may have thought possible.

Could it be that as we grow together, our love deepens, strengthens, and magnifies?

Could it be that as we share, accept, explore, understand, and love, we become soul mates.

I think so.